Dear Harriette: A close friend likes to play the role of Cupid. His interest in other people’s love life can be well intentional, but for me he feels invasive.
In general, I am a bit reserved about my love life, but my friends know about some that I am interested. There has been a subtle flirting, and so far, I like slow burn.
The last time we were all together, my friend touched him to tell my crush that I am shy and that I just need a push in the right direction.
She was annoying and uncomfortable for the rest of that night, while she was proud or herself. I thought it was imitation, and that is not how I want to be perceived by anyone, much less in which I could get involved.
Since then, he asked if only the two could do something, and I told him that he would let him know.
I still like, but now I feel so embarrassed and aware of himself. Am I exaggerating?
– Non -resolved help
Dear unresolved help: Look fits your aggressive friend for a moment in the opportunity before you.
The boy you like has invited you to leave. Go for it.
It can be like you, a little shy and Noving an impulse to make a movement. While her friend should worry about her own business, she may have done a favor generating a reaction. Do not allow her anger to cloud her vision.
You can simply follow the flow to see how the date develops, or you can directly direct the elephant in the room: tell him that his friend made him embarrass, but you are soft to both who share a moment together.
Dear Harriette: Two years ago, I was in an abusive, definitely emotionally and possible abusive relationship.
The person with whom I was abandoned, and I stayed because I wanted to show him that not everyone leaves. After staying in abuse, I realized that it was what would cure or change it.
When I finally finished it, I cut all the ties. I thought I had covered all my bases, and almost two years of zero contact cheated on me to think that everything was behind me.
Then I received a long email from him asking him if he could allow him to apologize. He explained that he is now in therapy dealing with all the things that angered him so much to begin with and acknowledges that I did it.
I feel very proud of the two years without contact that cools me, but a part of me is due to an apology.
Will your apology help me to continue? Am I taking steps back?
– Cut ties
Dear ties: From personal experience, I suggest that you will not open that again. When I allowed my abusive university boyfriend to speak to me years after we broke, I finished the set again because the apologies were not enough.
Let your former deal with your amendments from a distance. Do not come back. Live your life.
Harriette Cole is one of life and founder of Dreamlepers, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harrietcole.com oc/or Andrews McMeel Syndionction, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
