Dear Harriette: Recently I graduated and entered the workforce, and although I feel grateful to have achieved a full time in marketing, I am starting to feel a bit lost.
The work itself is fine. I have a support team and a decent salary, and I can use some of the skills I learned at school. Even so, something feels off. I don’t feel satisfied.
I’m still miracles if I chose this field just because it felt safe or convenient at that time, not because it really wants to do.
Now that I have a few months, I am thinking of turning, but what?
I have explored different industries and roles online, listed in podcasts, I even tried information interviews, but nothing is really clicking. It is difficult not to compare myself with colleagues who seem to know exactly what they want and are carrying at full speed while I am stuck questioning everything.
I worry that if jumping from the ship too soon or too, I will look squamous or unemployed. I also worry that if I stay too long in a role that doesn’t inspire me, I will end up trapped in a race I never really wanted.
How do I discover in which direction to enter when I still don’t know what interests me? Is this son of normal uncertainty in the first internships of a career?
– I just started
Estimated just starting: Be patient. A mistake that many people make when they start their races is to jump the ship too soon.
Have the opportunity to learn everything I can in this work. Soak everything. Know like many people as I can, as it explores other potential areas of interest. Stop comparing yourself to others and only learn.
Many people have multiple pivots throughout their professional trips. You do not have to remain in a single role for life, but give yourself a gain to obtain knowledge and skills, and a good reference, before leaving.
Dear Harriette: Latey, I have felt without support. Last year it was extremely difficult for me, and he felt how I thought my friends are there for me.
I know that we are all adults and we have ODN schedules and life challenges, so I’m not sure if my expectations were too high.
I don’t want to impose, but my friends always tell me they are here for me. However, when I suffered an important loss and found the courage to tell them that I needed support, they seemed to be distant.
Have my friends and I surpassed? Am I exaggerating? Is there any way to address this with my friends without sounding right?
– Feel careless
Dear careless feeling: When you told your friends that you needed their support, was it specific in the summary of your needs? Was it a reasonable request?
Sometimes, when people face a crisis, they shout for help in such a general way that others do not know how to help. Other times, people trust friends for everything, which can feel supposed.
Evaluate what activates the need and because of friends and asks that specifically. If you don’t answer, ask them why.
You can tell them that your feelings that house have been useful. Ask what made them turn off.
Finally, ask yourself if some opportunities have been lost to support your friends in the past. If so, it can be time to apologize, now that you know how you feel from the other side.
Harriette Cole is one of life and founder of Dreamlepers, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send toaskhariette@harrietcole.com OC/or Andrews McMeel Syndionction, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
