Dear lady manners: I had a breast increase surgery 20 years ago, for reasons that I still think they were good.
I am not interested in having to justify my choice to anyone, and in any case, it is not something that could undo even if I wanted to do it.
Now I’m single and coming out. It has happened more than one that a man sees me naked for the first time, detects that I have breast implants, after everything stops to look at my chest and ask: “Why did you do it?”
It implies that he disapproves my choice. I consider this rude, critical and inensible.
I never commented on the bodies of other people or their choices what to do with them. I would never feel the right to ask someone like that, unless I was explicitly invited to do so.
What is a good way to answer when this intrusive and critical question is asked, as special in the context of sexual intimacy? In the times that this has happened, I was so abreak and dismayed that I could not think about what to say at the time.
I have ended up saying something like: “It is a long story and I really do not do it because to talk about that now”, but I would also like to convey that it seems offensive, shame of the body and painful.
Soft reader: Those are surely all the qualities that not because in a potential suit, much less a lover Inmantad.
Miss Manners believes that she would be fought from some so fast to criticize and question her choices, irreversible or otherwise. And making negative comments in the midst of passion is not the way to maintain the situation, which also does not particularly brilliant.
Dear Miss Manners: We are older adults who sleep before many people, and leave parties without saying goodbye.
We do it because, or when a guests leaves, others take it as a sign that they should leave too! We do not want to be those that cause an early exodus of a good party that is in full swing.
The next morning, we communicate with the hosts to thank them and apologize for sliding. Are we rude?
Soft reader: While their intentions are children, the result is less, which is undoubtedly aware, since it always seems to apologize the next day.
Miss Manners will remind you even more that it is still at least a 12 -hour gap where your hosts wonder: “What happened to the McCutcheons? I hope they are fine.” Or worse, “did we offend them in any way?”
Miss Manners suggests a commitment. At the beginning of the party, tell your hosts that they hope they endorse it in advance, but will have to leave early. That way, there can be no doubt that he has no sick tasks, or that one of his other guests insulted him.
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