Dear Abby: My eldest daughter, “Alexa”, is breaking my heart. He is committed to a pleasant enough man with the one in his leg for five years, but has set aside every wedding tradition that is important for us.
Alexa won a engagement ring because diamonds are “ugly” and not politically correct. She has refused to have a commitment party or a bachelorette party.
Because they are looking for a record, my friends have no idea what to get them for wedding gifts. (It turns out that none of my friends is invited to the wedding, only her friends and family).
He also refuses to have a bridal party, so his sisters are injured because they are ladies of honor.
I really wanted to buy with her for her wedding dress, but she doesn’t want to wear one. (Instead, he bought a smooth white dress).
Salachicha of everything, her father cannot accompany her down the hall because, in her words, she is not owned to be given away.
There will be no reception, only champagne and wedding cake in the basement of the church. There is no wedding dinner, not even snacks, or wedding toast. He won a first dance because there is no band.
I understand that he saw his younger sister become a boyfriend, but his sister made a beautiful wedding we paid.
We are willing to pay for hers too, but she and her fiance refuse to do AnySomething we want. Both are doctors and can pay for what they want. His father is ready to be at home instead of being ignored, and I am not sure to want to be there either.
How do we sail this without alienating our daughter? – Ruine wedding in New York
Dear wedding in ruins: You and your husband navigate this remembering that Alexa’s wedding is yours, not yours. He has already had two weddings: his and that of his youngest daughter.
Check with the knowledge that you and your husband can spend the money you would have flown at this party on a luxury vacation for you.
Dear Abby: What do you think of some relatives who asked to come and stay with us while they moved to our state, and brought a gun and ammunition to our house without knowledge?
We have a 7 -year -old daughter! They do not believe they did anything bad and claim that they were not united to inform us because it was blocked and the ammunition was stored separately from it. – Threatened in Oregon
Estimated threatened: From what he has written, his relatives practice the security of weapons. Its weapon is closed and the ammunition is stored separately.
I will assume that his son did not find his weapon. That said, nobody has the “right” to bring one weapon to the house of another one without their permission.
If your relatives cannot immediately find another accommodation, they must go what are Oregon’s weapons laws and prefabricated disorders of your weapon away from your home in the trunk of your vehicle.
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