Dear Abby: My husband and I finally obtained the custody of his daughter “Amelia” 15 days before her 16th birthday. She came to us with home education and little socialization. Now he is 18 years old, and we have it on the way to graduate, but has changed completely. She plans to move with her boyfriend and the school is jumping.
My husband feels that we can get into his case about it, since we have had only two years. We have had three boys who have graduated and two girls who house. We made the children (their steps) go to school every day and live at home until they graduated. We will do the same with our younger girls.
Abby, why is she afraid of telling Amelia that she can’t move until after graduation, especially not with her boyfriend, or accompany her for losing school all the time? – Stern Madrastra in Kansas
Dear Madrastra: Her husband can fear that Amelia is too stubborn to be reasoned and worry that if she affirms, her daughter will separate.
You described yourself as “severe stepmother.” If the way in which it demonstrates that is to insist that the children of her husband graduate with a basic education, I do not think it is hard. However, if there is more, Amelia can be moving to get away from you.
Maybe a different approach could be more effective. Amelia is greater enough to be spoken with “woman to woman.” If you can impress that you and your father care only for your well -being, that the decisions you are making will now affect your entire future, maybe she will be more open to listen to her message. The fact that it moves is less important than not completing your education and obtaining that secondary school diploma. Let that be your approach when you and her dad talk to her.
Dear Abby: I have a co -worker who loves baking. She is really wonderful and brings a baked article for our birthdays. We have a small office of six.
Unfortunately, it has enough plug -in air sethors in its kitchen, so each item that it brings to share is saturated with perfume. Nobody means anything because it is extremely Sensitive and would be crushed. Is there any way to say it gently? – Try it in Washington
Dear tasting: If the oil of its air fresheners is a transfer ring to the treats that its co-signs brings, some must take it to the side and speak discreetly. A form of phrase would be:
“You are always so generous to bring birthdays for everyone, and we really appreciate it. But the last time we tried your fabulous chocolate cake, we noticed the aroma of the jungle garden (or Alpine Jave-Yve-Yve-Ams Mightheh would be a shame if fragrances affect the quality of your wonderful baked products.
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