Dear Abby: I have a 16 -month -old boy who recently learned to walk.
My mother had been looking at him one day a week while working part -time, but finally decided that it was too stress on her back and said she could no longer lift it. Lately, she has the legs that tells me, I need to “train it” to do certain things so that she sees it without lifting it (for example, climbing her own car seat).
Abby is too young to constantly do something like that.
It is no longer possible for her to put it in the seat of her car, raise it to put it in her crib, high chair, etc. She is very aggressive to find alternative wines to do things that will finally do more work for me. I think it would be safer and easier to pay a healthy caregiver.
Talking to her about this has become stressful because it calls me “crazy” for thinking that this is a security group.
If we are in the park and he does something insecure, pick it up and eliminate it because he is not yet a reliable listener.
How do I discuss this with her in a girl but firm, and it is my valid group?
– Lifting it in California
Dear uprising: You are not crazy! Or of course, your concerns are valid.
His son is a year, since he can do what his mother suggests. Finish those discussions.
He needs to be told childish, but firmly, that you know that he loves his grandson, but he needs more practical attention than he can give, so you are Hire some to do it.
Dear Abby: I am one of your male readers. My best friend, “Will”, and his family have been close friends for nine years. I consider them an extended family, and we do almost everything together.
Two years ago, they bought a house and turned the garage into a room for Will’s brother -in -law. A year ago, the brother -in -law with a woman who will call “Anika”, who stays with them several days every week.
She has done her place in the family, doing everything with Will’s wife and her son. Will and his wife have now begun to include it in trips and things that would normally have invited me to do with them, but without me.
Recently I discovered that Anika was disgusted when she heard that she was going to make a recent trip with them, but she cools to Will to let me go.
I feel that this new girlfriend push me out of the family I know and love. How do this handle?
– pushed aside in the east
Dear pushed: Tell him that during the nine years you have close friends with him and his family, you have come to consider them as your extended family. Then say that he has caught the attention that Anika didn’t do it because he included in that last exit and asked if he knows why. Have you offended her in any way?
She can be jealous of the relationship you have had for so long with Will and her brother -in -law and not be willing to share her boyfriend or family.
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