Dear Eric: My eldest daughter is going through a difficult divorce.
Her husband who is soon exposed to the exhiadero is asking for alimony and additional expenses and basically putting it for the drainer, because he thinks due to his infidelity. She with her new boyfriend when she was still married.
This has put my grandson in a difficult and confusing situation.
He is 17 years old and loves his two parents. He feels that he has to be loyal to his father, because his father says he is the victim. But he also recognizes that he has never seen his mother so happy. They had a content marriage that made her anxious and unhappy.
I want to help my grandson navigate at this challenging moment. What child or advice can I give it?
– worried grandmother
Dear grandmother: I am so slippery that your grandson has you to help you last this time. He needs a close trusted adult who can tell him things that he really needs to hear.
Things Like: “It’s not right that you’re being Well in the Middle of This Contentious divorce” and “I know it’s hard to hear negative Things About Your Parents and i’m Sorry” And “No Matter What You Do, You’re Not Be Disloyal To You Sake Sake You Sake and Sake and Sake You Parenty and Sake and You Parenty Sake and Sake and Sake and Sake You Are Sake and You Are Sake and You Are Sake and You Are Sake and Your Sake, Love and Good, you are fine and you are fine and you are fine and you are fine and you are fine and you are fine and you are fine and you are fine and you are well and you know you are loved unconditionally.
Above all, remember that you don’t choose one side. Divorce is difficult and your child is seeing new sides of your parents and that will need to get used.
Robert E. Emery writes in the book “The truth about children and divorce”, “Children whose parents first put them from the beginning have a great advantage over those whose parents cannot separate their feelings about their failed marriage from their feelings about the co-criar association that will last the rest of their lives.”
That did not happen here, but you can make sure your grandson knows that it is a priority for you.
While the way his father takes advantage of him is very inappropriate, he gives him an opportunity to guide his grandson through an important part of growing: see his parents as humans. Like all humans, sometimes they make mistakes, they give in their sausage instincts and those who are supposed to protect can fail. This topic does not make the issue unworthy of love.
Help your grandson develop internal limits while advocating Histra with adults in your life. This will help him to have healthier relationships with his parents and with future partners.
Dear Eric: I was in a relationship with my ex, Yves, for about five years. Duration that time, we were accommodated and we supported each other.
Yves anyway ghosts me without explanation, although I can admit that we are as close as we had the leg at the beginning of our relationship.
Later, a friend who is a close relative of Yves mentioned that Yves was dating someone called Tiffany.
The situation took an unexpected turn a few months later when Tiffany called me asking for money. He said he needed help with rent because Yves refused to give him anyone, and decided to resort to the rich ex -girlfriend.
When I told her that this was my group, she argued that the diffusion of the two came out with Yves, we should be mutual friends.
Yves is a great person, but should Tiffany trust?
– Single confused
Estimated single: Oh, how he would like to be able to put an advertising fence in his city that reads “for the love of all the good, dear writer of letters, please do not give Tiffany as much as the time of day.”
Yves ghost you after five years? Unacceptable. Cruel and immediate. And then Yves told his new girlfriend to ask you for money? Where is the gall getting? Is there a ballas mine in your city?
Tiffany’s central statement, you should be friends because you went out with the same person, makes no sense. And I wonder what Tiffany believes you have in the common bears Yves and, she waits, money.
I think these people are trying to manipulate you. Don’t leave them.
Dear Eric: Regarding the letter of “Happy Family”, who was looking for an “agile return” to relatives who wonder when/if your daughter plans to marry, I suggest that the return is “why would you ask that?” Pay some attention to the question of the question.
Regardless of the researcher’s response, a simple “h” or “see” the conversation ends.
– Return again
Dear return: I love that! It is a great tactic to pull a glory Estefan and turn.
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